just gonna say this: if someone has social anxiety and they ask you something akin to ‘are you mad at me’ or ‘do you hate me’, it isn’t because they don’t trust you, it’s because their brain literally tells them that all the time
it’s not a personal slight, it’s insecurity caused by mental illness
So few people in my life have understood this. One even made a point to tell me that my anxieties made everyone feel like I didn’t trust them. I couldn’t figure out how to explain properly, so she’d understand that it wasn’t them, it was never them, it was ME I didn’t trust.
It was me I didn’t trust not to fuck things up, not to let them all see what I waste of space I was, at which point they would stop liking me, and be completely right to do so.
I guess “it’s not you it’s me” never sounds like it could be true, even when it is. Everyone has their own bit of insecurity to tell them it’s them.